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4 STEPS TO STOP BEING A SLAVE TO YOUR EMOTIONS
September 26, 2017

It’s time to stop being “Trump-ian”!

So you had a pretty intense conflict with someone in your personal life or professional life and you just can’t shut your brain off, especially when the lights go out and it’s technically time for sleepies.  There you are, in the middle of the night, attempting to process what happened and ruminating about future interactions.  What will you say?  How might you get your point across?  Will they understand your perspective?  You, thereby, plan your pitch and get into all the details about what you will say and how you will say … Read the rest

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Are You Enabling Your Friends?
May 29, 2017

ARE YOU AN ENABLER?

When we think of the word “enabling,” we often think of its use in addictions. You enable an addict when your attempt to help them, hurts them instead. For example, if you decide to pay the rent of an addicted person, you allow their drug use to continue. They should be paying their own rent and if they cannot, they must suffer the natural consequences involved. If you pay their rent for them, they are allowed to keep using their money however they desire (and inevitably, they desire drugs). 

When I discuss enabling with my clients, … Read the rest

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Trigger Trump
March 7, 2017

I have written about Donald Trump before and once again, I must acknowledge that diagnosing anyone from afar is unethical, irresponsible, and impossible. Essentially, there is no way to determine whether or not Trump’s behavior is authentic or choreographed and I get that. After screaming at my news sources multiple times, I’ve also come to accept the fact that collecting psychological symptoms are of no interest to politicians or to news reporters because symptoms are difficult to measure with 100% accuracy, especially with someone who has not volunteered himself to psychological assessment. It’s frustrating to acknowledge these roadblocks because you … Read the rest

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The Psychology of Debt
November 23, 2016

Are you in debt? What does this mean, psychologically?

Getting good at going on a shopping spree and generating debt? Living pay cheque to pay cheque? Putting all your faith in overdraft protection? Just like with all other bad patterns, if you see a trend involving the lack of money, you might want to take a deeper look within your own psyche to finally solve the problem. Wouldn’t it be interesting to discover that the way out of debt was to simply practice new thoughts and emotions?!

Some practitioners (myself included), maintain that what you experience in life is … Read the rest

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Top 5 Signs You Take Facebook “LIKES” Way Too Personally
September 20, 2016

Boy am I glad to not be a teenager in the age of social media. I can only imagine the stupid shit my friends and I would have posted, not to mention the ridiculous arguments we would have gotten into via the Internet.

However, I’m a 36-year-old women, who’s living in a time in which my social cohort, not to mention some of my high functioning therapy clients, seem to take Facebook behaviour literally and personally. There are many dysfunctional Facebooking behaviors out there but most recently, it has come to my attention that people are specifically taking Facebook “liking” … Read the rest

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STILL CHRONICALLY single? The Problem is STILL you!
July 5, 2016

Sex and the City Syndrome: How Bitching about the Opposite Sex Will Only Bring You More Crappy Dates.

Many of us girls (and guys) can’t help but fondly remember the Sex and the City (SATC) series. As a matter of fact, I was smack-dab in the middle of my 20-something single girl drama when the series aired, making the show a necessary and indispensable weekly ritual.  To me, the SATC phenomenon felt like a support group for relationship problems. I eagerly watched as Carrie and the girls tried to navigate through, what seemed like, a very complex and difficult dating … Read the rest

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What Your Facebook Posts Are Saying About You?
June 7, 2016

So I’m casually looking through my Facebook (FB) Newsfeed only to come across a Facebook friend who’s put up yet another post about her day: “Headin’ over to the grocery store. I’m going to pick up some taco shells before taking my walk.” WHY? Why does this person feel the need to give us the play-by-play of her day? Well, the way we each respectively use FB has a pattern. Once we understand the motive behind that pattern of behavior, the behavior itself makes complete sense.

While there are so many great ways to use FB, many people use it … Read the rest

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Emotional Addiction
January 18, 2016

Sometime ago, I learned about something crazy interesting. It’s called emotional addiction and it’s no joke. In the same way that our bodies get addicted to substances, they can also get addicted to our very own emotions. Think about the emotions you experience often…the negative ones. Which among them do you know intimately, but wish you didn’t? After an argument are you often angry? …sad? …frustrated? Pick the one you know too well.

What if I told you that your body has developed an addiction to this very emotion? Basically the cells of your body have been welcoming this emotion … Read the rest

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